This Valentine’s Day, Trust Yourself
If you’ve ever felt like an imposter in your own success, doubted your abilities, or feared that you’re not “enough,” you’re not alone. Imposter syndrome and self-doubt have a way of creeping in, especially when we’re stepping into new roles, pursuing big goals, or pushing the boundaries of our comfort zones. The good news? Your body holds wisdom that can help you navigate these challenges and learn to trust yourself.
The Somatic Signals of Self-Doubt
Self-doubt and imposter syndrome aren’t just mental experiences; they show up in your body before your brain even begins to process them. A tight chest before a big presentation, a fluttering stomach when receiving praise, or a clenched jaw when stepping into leadership—all of these are signals. Instead of ignoring or pushing them away, what if you listened to them?
Somatic awareness is the practice of tuning into your body’s signals and using them as guides rather than barriers. Your body is constantly communicating with you—offering insight into what feels aligned, what needs attention, and where you may be holding onto fear that no longer serves you.
From Fear to Self-Trust: A Somatic Awareness Practice
This Valentine’s Day, take a moment to reconnect with yourself through the 3N Model: Notice, Name, Navigate:
Pause and Notice – Find a quiet moment and bring awareness to your body. Where do you feel tension? What sensations are present? Approach this with curiosity, not judgment.
Name the Feeling – Are you feeling scared, anxious, or overwhelmed? Naming what you feel can help separate your emotions from your identity.
Navigate the Discomfort – Ask yourself, “Is this unsafe or just uncomfortable?” Take a deep breath in and make your exhale longer than your inhale to activate your parasympathetic nervous system and calm your body. This signals to your nervous system that you are safe.
Trust What Your Body Tells You
If something feels off, honor that. If something feels expansive, lean into it. Self-trust isn’t about always having the answers; it’s about believing in your ability to navigate whatever comes next.
Reframing Love: A Commitment to Yourself
Love isn’t just something we give to others—it’s a practice we cultivate within ourselves. This Valentine’s Day, instead of questioning whether you’re worthy, capable, or ready, ask yourself: What would change if I trusted myself more?
The strongest relationships are built on trust. Why not start with the one you have with yourself?